What is it Like to be a Trucker's Wife?

So, what's it like to be a trucker's wife? Hmmm, let's see.
I once read something somewhere online, I can't quite recall where I actually read it, but it said, "A trucker's wife is an independent, self sufficient, psychotic woman who can allow someone to walk in occasionally, mess up the house, spoil the kids and leave a mess only to stand at the door and tell that person she loves them." That one is me to a T.
There are times when you hate being a trucker's wife; then there are times when you love it. There are times when you cry because you miss him; and times when you don't mind that he's gone.
There are things that really really suck to do alone: ER visits with the kids, major health issues with the kids {especially when they've passed it on to you!}, shopping with a 3 year old and an 8 month old, paying bills, managing the money, making appointments, and generally running a whole household.
Then, of course, there are things that are great to do alone: it's easier to keep the house clean, make time for yourself, plan dinners {my truck driver happens to have Celiac Disease so dinner without him is much easier to plan and cheaper too}, romp around with the boys, host playdates with my mom's group, and generally just do things my way.
It's definitely a lifestyle that takes adapting to. I've known my Hubby for a lot of years; when we got engaged, he told me, "I'll never stop driving a truck. Can you handle it?"
Of course I can. It's a regular 9~5 job that kept him home every day that might be hard for me. Shit, I'll admit it; I'm hard to live with. I'm set in my ways and I don't want to change. When I'm around ANYBODY for longer than a few days at a time I annoy them.
Being with a trucker was HEAVEN... Till we had kids. Now it's sorta like... I dunno... Purgatory. Good but not good. Bad but not bad. The hardest thing, for me, is seeing my 3 year old try to deal when daddy leaves after a weekend home. Sometimes it gets really hard on him. That's when I need to really step up my "mommy game."
Yeah, that's when he gets spoiled. I wish I had a better way to deal with his pain other than McDonald's, hugs, love, and toy trucks; but that's what currently works until I become more wise.
Lastly, there is one stereotype I cannot stand about being a trucker's wife. I DO NOT CHEAT. I never would. I don't have the desire... Let alone the time. Just because Hubby's not around 24/7 doesn't mean I'm a complete horn-ball who can't contain herself until he gets home.

All in all, being married to a trucker is like a roller coaster ride. Fun, amazing, and definitely different from the norm.